Finding Balance – It’s a Slippery Slope
I’m stressed-out most of the time, but I can’t blame anybody but myself. I feel a real need to find some balance in my life.
I take on too much. But, there are so many different things I really enjoy doing. It’s complicated. Or is it? Maybe if I set some priorities, my search for balance will be a short one. So, what consumes my time?
- Spending time with my fiance (a long-distance relationship) as well as my daughters, granddaughter and the rest of my family
- Playing golf
- Cooking and baking
- Working in my yard
- Watching my Netflix shows (Heartland, The Crown, Reign and others)
- Getting on Pinterest (to get ideas for all of the activities listed above)
- I’ve recently embarked on – not a diet – but a new philosophy regarding food and my health
- Desiring to simplify my life and embrace minimalism
- Writing this blog when I find (uh um, make) the time
- Looking after my 85-year old parents
- My job
Geez, is that all? Why would I be stressed?
Like I said, I have no one to blame but myself. No one is holding a gun to my head making me work, golf, bake, craft, and cram 3 or 4 episodes of Heartland into my day.
Why do I do this to myself? Why can’t I just find one or maybe two passions to pursue and stick to those? It turns out that I am one of those people like Jack – you know “Jack of all trades, but master of none.” I can’t seem to only focus on one thing. I enjoy too many hobbies, and Lord forbid I might miss out on something.
My balancing act is complicated because I’m making it that way, so I’m guessing I need to put some thought into my time management and set some priorities.
Setting My Priorities
Well, obviously, my fiance and family are on the top of my list and those are non-negotiable, so lets look at all of the other stuff that takes up my time.
Golf? I love golf. It’s only for about 8 or 9 months of the year, and it is something KenDon and I both enjoy together. So, it’s a keeper.
Travel? Also non-negotiable. Travel is just about the only thing that when you spend money on it, it actually makes you richer. I’d rather have stories to tell then things to show any day. It stays.
Make Things/Crafting? I definitely need to narrow down my choices of projects. While I can do many things well, if I focus on just one or two things at a time I think I will become better at those things and actually find fulfillment in creating quality items. This will be a work in progress, but I think I know where it will lead. We’ll see.
Cooking & Baking? Necessary for life, and if I quite making coconut cream pies or sopapilla cheesecakes for my family they might disown me. It stays.
Working in My Yard? You have to take care of your home, and I enjoy a nice yard and being outdoors too much to even think of abandoning my yard (although my yard may feel I’ve already abandoned it since I started playing golf). I need to stay home a little more and give my yard a little TLC. I will work on this so my lack of attention to my poor yard will help balance my stress level.
Netflix? Okay, so here I have an obvious problem – I may be just short of an intervention status here. I really don’t watch much regular TV (other than sports), but I need to get a hold of my “marathon watching” shows. This is definitely an area where I need to limit my time.
Pinterest? Again, maybe I need to limit my time doing this and actually make, do, or cook the stuff I Pin. Pin less, do more; that’s my new mantra.
Diet and excercise? My ultimate goal is not to have this be an item on my “To Do” list; I just want to eat healthy and exercise because it will make me healthier and happier, and you know – be in balance. I’ve recently started eating a Paleo diet. This is also known as “The Caveman” diet. Meat, vegetables, fruit and healthy fats. That means no wheat, dairy, sugar or processed foods. I’ve only been doing this for a little over a week, but I already feel better. I fully intend on this being my way of life, not just a diet I am following. Soon following this philosophy will become natural to me and won’t cause me stress.
Minimalism? Well, this was put on the back-burner until after the holidays. I’ve already cleaned out several closets, etc. and I believe that the more you own, the more it all owns you. So I will be tackling this before the Spring so I can have a yard sale, or I may just donate it all. This needs to be done, and I can do a little bit at a time.
Blogging? I’ve wanted to write and share things with people through writing as long as I can remember, so no, I will not give up blogging. In fact, I will actually make more time to work on this blog and make it better. Less Netflix and more blogging. Got it.
Looking after my parents? Definitely not negotiable. I am so glad I am here to help them out. There are challenges and stresses involved sure, but the blessing of the time I get to spend with them is priceless. There are those nights after we eat dinner together that they just talk and reminisce and I feel so priviledged to have this time with them and hear their stories (even the ones I’ve heard many, many times before). I realize that there will come a day when I would give anything to have them here to listen to, so for now I will do whatever I can for them.
My job? Please refer to all of the above items. I wouldn’t be able to do any of the above things if it wasn’t for my awesome job and boss. I enjoy the work I do and the people I work with. I’m blessed.
I have a very full, blessed and wonderful life. However, if I don’t rein-in my “To-Do List” I may just exhaust myself and not be able to enjoy any of the things I love. So, I will watch less television, spend less time on Pinterest, get more sleep, and hopefully find some much-needed balance in my life.
I think if I will just take a little better care of myself that all of this anxiety and worry about my To-Do List may just balance out on its own. Perhaps I should count my blessings instead of adding to by To-Do List. Yes, I think I’m on to something here . . .
If finding balance and setting your priorities interests you, you might enjoy reading this inspiring article on finding balance from the “Emerge Empowerment” blog – Life Overwhelm – Redefining Your Priorities .
Do you need to set some priorities in your life to help you find balance? Get a paper and pen and start writing. Things often look much more simple in black and white on paper.